It assess the extent to which parents control their children’s behavior in sport.
It assess the praise and empathy parents display towards their children.
After a match/competition regardless of the end result, praise every effort, work or sporting behavior of your child. Don’t forget that praise is a very important and powerful reward that has a great influence on the child’s motivation to make more and more effort every time.
In situations of less successful results in play/performance, shift the focus from defeat or failure and try to single out and praise the good and successful aspects of your child’s play. You will surely find at least one point, move or activity of the child in which he/she shines. Also, the emphasis can be on fair play, on the relationship with teammates, the audience and the coach.
If you are disappointed or sad because of your child’s poor play / competition results, try not to show these feelings in front of the child, but to take a cheerful and optimistic attitude. In that way, you will show the child that it is okay to have bad days, as well as that victory is not the most important part of sports.
Praise the child after each match/competition in which he/she achieved a good result or victory. Try to praise in such situations as well, based on the effort, work and commitment shown, and not on the end result.
Try not to overemphasize joy, happiness and other positive feelings, so as not to influence the child to experience victory as the most important aspect of sports activity and the situation that alone deserves celebration and joy.
Talk to your child about his/her feelings about the sport they are playing. Help him/her name existing feelings. Encourage him/her to talk to you about unpleasant feelings. Ask him what influences his feelings, what aspects of the sports activity, as well as how you, friends from the club and the coach influence how he/she feels. Listen carefully to what your child is saying to you and try to normalize his/her feelings by telling him/her that it is perfectly fine to feel that way in some situations, that everyone has days when he/she does not feel nice, but that he/she will the days will come when they will feel better. Do not diminish or exaggerate the child’s feelings, just let him know that you understand and support him/her.
It assess parents’ activity in the club or during practice sessions.
In order to contribute to the better functioning of the club in which your child trains, and in accordance with the possibilities and business policy of the club, get actively involved in the process of managing and organizing the planned activities of the club.
Be a part of sports events in which your child participates by contributing to the promotion, organization, preparation, realization, donation or some other form of support for the event itself, in accordance with your abilities and interests.
Work with your child’s coach. Get regular information about the training process and your child’s progress, as well as about events during free activities. Introduce the trainer to your observations about your child’s manifested behaviors and feelings that may be relevant to the training process. Also, it is important that the child is acquainted with your cooperation and the content of the conversation, which will be presented in a child-friendly way and in accordance with his age. Nurture a relationship of trust of the child, both in relation to you and in relation to the coach.
Show interest in your child’s sports activities. Set aside time to spend talking about current training events. Unobtrusively ask your child to tell you about events in training or competition. Encourage him to share with you less pleasant content, such as personal failures, worries, problems, inappropriate behaviors or unpleasant feelings, as well as possible problems in relationships with friends or coaches. Listen to what your child is telling you and try not to value the content presented, but to accept it as a current burden on your child who needs your support. If it is necessary for the child to correct his own behavior in a calm and precise way, point out to him the aspects of behavior on which he should work. Explain to the child in a clear and precise way how and why he should correct the selected behaviors. On that occasion, emphasize the behaviors that require correction, and not the characteristics and other qualities of the child. For example, tell your child, “The way you treat a friend is not good behavior,” instead of saying, “You’re not good.”
According to your and other family members’ abilities, in relation to your child’s training, adjust family obligations and routines, such as meals, time for relaxation, rest and sleep. In this way, you will provide support to the child and his sports activities, eliminate the potential concern of the child regarding the organization of obligations and at the same time contribute to a better organization of your time and the time of other family members.